For some reason, a lot of people my age seem to get embarrassed about the special quirks they have and refer to them as ‘guilty pleasures’ instead of simply ‘interests.’ I don’t know why but it really irks me that certain interests people have are looked down upon or laughed at for being ‘too geeky’ or ‘too weird’ or ‘too childish.’ I mean you can probably tell by now that I really try to embrace my extremely childish self but at some point I found it really difficult to own this facet of my personality simply because I felt so certain that people would judge me for it. (See ‘Disney Princess’ to learn more.)
According to the Oxford dictionary, a ‘quirk’ is
A peculiar aspect of a person’s character or behaviour.
I think the term ‘peculiar’ here is probably what would be most off-putting, well for me at least. This is cause it might be interpreted as perceiving a person to be queer or strange. Even at that, all of this had me wondering- why do we place so much emphasis on a simple word and use it to define us as human beings?
For so long I’ve been defined as ‘near perfect’, ‘goodie two shoes’, ‘the smart one’, ‘the innocent one’ and although all these words have mainly positive connotations within society, somehow my mind was still able to misinterprete it all to mean I was ‘ignorant’ and not ‘street smart’ in the way I felt I should’ve been. So you can see how easy it is for simple words to mess with your inhibitions and make you feel less than what you are.
I recently watched a Kendrick Lamar interview where his incredible sophomore album ‘To Pimp a Butterfly‘ was being closely analysed and dissected. One thing I learnt in addition to the mass of intelligence being uttered by Mr Lamar was that he discovered that the word ‘negroe’ translates to ‘King’ within the Ethiopian society and so he used this as a platform to take the word ‘nigga’ back and return its original value which hails the Black race. Although rappers have been trying to do this constantly for years, I personally have only come to respect this concept due to this particular body of work and his artistry.
So basically, if Kendrick Lamar whose seen so much struggle and death in his life can be bold enough to own his quirks in terms of his love for poetry and different rhythms (listen to the album and you’ll understand what I mean) then surely it’s very possible to own your quirks. They are what makes you you.
If I wasn’t obsessed with Anne Frank I wouldn’t be Tolu Karunwi.
If I wasn’t obsessed with Pop Art, I wouldn’t be Tolu Karunwi.
If I didn’t love decorating spaces, I wouldn’t be Tolu Karunwi.
Our quirks are what separate us from the mould and they’re things we should be proud of.
“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it.”
– Psalms 139:14 (NLT)
Peace & Love,